Yes, I have been known to say that more than once in my lifetime. Today when I say, I didn’t know what I didn’t know, it’s with my right hand raised to show my client I was there too. Too afraid to be wrong, not sure of the question I should ask or have a partner that doesn’t allow you to speak. I was there, that was me.
Conversations about money, budgets, savings, investments, retirement, 529’s, life insurance and long-term care to name a few, can be very stressful if not approached with an open mind. When you are in a relationship and finances are a shared responsibility there must be a mutually acceptable agreement.
I was that one, yes, the one that relinquished my responsibility to be involved in my finances when I was married. However, it didn’t happen all at once. It was a very seductive dance. There were times that my Spidey senses were tingling overtime; however, I choose to mute them.
And as the dust settled after the divorce and I was done licking my wounds, I had time to review some of the glaring mistakes I made. I didn’t know what I didn’t know back then. That was life-changing.
Had I not had this life experience; I would not be here today writing this blog.
I know now what I didn’t know before. I found my passion; to be part of the journey to empower, engage and equip women in pursuit of taking control of their financial future.